Under Construction

Breast Forgive the repetitive use of the breast graphic but stay with me for a moment while I draw your attention to the fact that when your doctor tells you have breast cancer and need a double mastectomy, and in the next breath, he says you need to think about breast reconstruction DURING the cancer removing surgery, the first thing you might think about (after you come to terms with the fact that your mortality is in jeopardy) is the opportunity to build your breasts the way you want them. For me, the ideal breasts would look something like what you see here.

Unfortunately, the standard reconstruction looks something closer to this – and “this” involves numerous follow up visits to stretch the skin and muscle to make room for the silicone implants. Breast Reconstruction

So the question is: do I just wear the scars on my flat chest like a warrior, or do I put myself through a procedure that carries its own set of risks and discomfort to do the equivalent of a male comb-over only to end up with two misshapen lumps on my chest full of a shitload of silicone? Seriously, what kind of decision is this?

Posted in Breast Cancer.


  1. Obviously, you’re the only one who can decide whether having a flat warrior chest will make you feel the female equivalent of emasculate, but if it were me that’s still the route I’d go. Why put yourself through more risk simply to try to live up to society’s unending pressure to mold yourself into it’s capitalist- and male-based ideas of what female beauty is? I think women who wear their scars proudly are wildly sexy. Those scars show better than any mere tattoo that this person has waged war with a serious foe and come out the victor. But that’s just my own take on it.

  2. Seriously, what kind of decision is this?

    Denise, it boggles the mind, this does. It’s an utterly crap decision to have to make at the worst time possible.

    I already saw you as a strong Warrior Queen before I knew of this battle. You are Denise, no matter what you decide to do, you’ll still be a superhero… I need to find you that cape.

  3. Geez Denise you never take the easy path my girl. Sending all the strength, healing and love I can pull together for you.

    Up to you my girl with or without boobs you will always be Denise.

    If you want my choice for you ~. I’d get them ~ you are already going through the turmoil ~ might as well get a new set of twins. Also think they will turn out better than that picture you posted. A friend had double mas she got a new set to be honest they look pretty kewl and she is really happy she says they are real perky and make her happy.

    Long and short the most important thing is to kickass Denise like your usual self. Just get cancer free with boobs or without ~ just hang with us here on earth for at least another 20 years or so my friend ~~ hugs

  4. Good grief. Another absurdity in our skewed society. If it were me, I’d choose the Amazon warrior… which you already are, no matter what “shape” you fill.

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